Valentine’s Day means something different for everyone. Many couples celebrate, and single people either avoid or treat the day like any other. It can be a particularly tough time for someone in early recovery from drug or alcohol addiction.
It can either bring old memories and negative feelings to the forefront or create a desire to start a new romantic relationship. Generally, most health professionals recommend that people in early recovery from substance abuse wait about one year before pursuing a new relationship.
Although there is no specific timeline, focusing on recovery is essential, especially in the beginning. Relapse risks are far more significant now than ever before. The rate of unintentional drug overdose deaths decreased by 20% from 2016 to 2019 in Oklahoma, and the rate increased by 112% from 2019 to 2022.
Overall, there are risks and benefits to being in a relationship while in recovery, and if you are at a crossroads, there are practical tips and advice you can consider.
Initially, you’ll want to assess your personal readiness for dating in sobriety. This may involve some self-reflection about whether you want to pursue relationships or not. Looking inward helps you determine your emotional stability and self-awareness to begin a healthy relationship.
Moreover, you will want to evaluate your motives for dating. This will ensure they align with a genuine connection you are seeking and not simply fill a void.
Before entering the dating world, it’s a good idea to be confident in your sobriety, have a strong support network, and even a relapse prevention plan.
Set clear boundaries and communicate your sobriety and preferences openly when you feel comfortable. This could be done at any stage, but generally based on your comfort level with the person you are engaging with.
It’s generally wise to go alcohol-free or choose mocktails or alcoholfree drinks. It is challenging to select alcohol-free venues, as most places serve alcohol in some capacity.
Use your support system or consider sober dating apps, which are plentiful in today’s tech age. There are generally numerous sober communities you can lean on and meet like-minded people.
Finally, prioritize your self-care and do not lose focus on your sobriety. As cliché as this sounds, there is someone for everybody. Remember, the right partner will respect your commitment to sobriety.
Jody Boulay is a mother of two with a passion for helping others. She currently works as a Community Outreach Coordinator for DRS to help spread awareness of the dangers of drugs and alcohol.
